Hair Issues…where do I go from here?

P1000194Most African-American women probably can relate.

I don’t know what to do with my hair. I cut it off because after I became a new mom, I just couldn’t keep it looking sharp. I like it.  It’s easy.  It’s what many call a short natural. A boy cut.  It’s cool, but sometimes….and I mean only sometimes, I want some kind of other look.

I’ve done the weaves, the braids, the extensions, the pieces, even the wigs. I’ve colored, waved, cropped, trimmed, had the curl, gone asymmetrical (the 80s …remember Salt N’ Peppa). I’ve added the pony-tail, flaunted my pony-tip and even did the super-afro and told Angela Davis ‘eat your heart out honey’.

And honestly all the additions, especially weaves, are expensive and often hot and itchy.

I did it all for the camera….vanity…yes I admit I was vain. It was vanity in the beginning and later a concern that others who saw me wouldn’t think I was feminine enough to hire unless I had long locks. It stemmed from a bad period in my life when a working colleague told me my boss — a news director who will remain un-named — didn’t like reporters with short hair and I’d better let it grow…or she’d LET ME GO.

At the time I was sporting a 90s Halle Berry cut with a perm and was happy. But even then the permanent relaxer or “creamy crack” as some call it would damage my hair so badly, I’d have some serious issues. I’d periodically have to cut it really short…which concerned my friends that it was just “too masculine for tv.”

But now….tv is behind me, at least for now. I’m chemical free…..and pretty much hair a la light.

But if you out there have some suggestions — I’m open to hearing them.

I’ve had thoughts of doing this long before Chris Rock put together his documentary :”Good Hair”. I actually want to see it because everything I’ve read indicates it is a thought provoking documentary….not just comedy.

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3 Responses to Hair Issues…where do I go from here?

  1. LaDawn October 7, 2009 at 10:54 am #

    Recently found out about your blog on FB and I really enjoyed this piece. Our hair journeys have been similar trying to balance practicality, sex appeal, career requirements and just trying to keep hair on your head. I SO understand:) I look forward to reading more.

  2. nikki October 9, 2009 at 10:13 am #

    Hey Esther!

    Your blog is great!

    And you know I have to chime in about the hair! LOL. For starters, I think the natural is GORGEOUS on you. But keep in mind that embracing our hair is a journey. You will discover new stuff about your hair all the time! Are you gonna let it grow or keep it short? There is great info out there nowadays–websites, books, etc.

    I’d suggest playing with the texture a bit–you’d be surprised at how much you can do with technique and products!

    I am rebuilding my site now, but will soon do that natural hair section.

    We’ll talk soon, mama! Hug that baby for me!

    • Esther October 9, 2009 at 2:28 pm #

      Thanks Nikki. I plan to figure it out as I go along…one day at a time. I’m not sure what to do next. I like it short because I can keep it looking sharp. I don’t look descheveled if I put on a dress. I just grab some earings, do my make up and I’m done. I plan to update the look of this blog but I’m waiting to upgrade.

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